With my first baby, I learned something about hunger that no one had thought to warn me about.

It arrived not gradually, but as a full ambush — a ravenous, almost feral kind of hunger that bore no resemblance to anything I had experienced before. I would tell my husband, who is wonderful and attentive and deeply well-meaning, that I was hungry. He would disappear into the kitchen and return bearing something beautiful — toast, fruit, a bowl of something warm — but there was no one to give it to because I had already perished.

That was my postpartum hunger education. It arrived quickly and it was thorough. By baby number two I had a snack situation assembled bedside with the quiet precision of someone who has learned from her mistakes. By baby number three — Oscar, nine pounds of pure human, currently babbling I write this — the bedside snack station was operational before baby made his grand entrance in our bedroom.

Eight months postpartum now, and I have gotten to know my body’s rhythms in a way that only repetition teaches you. My belly is reliably, unapologetically poochy for about eight months after birth. And then, somewhere around month nine, something quietly shifts and I begin to feel comfortable in my clothes again. I have made my peace with this entirely. It is simply my body’s way of reminding me that a whole human lived in there — a nine-pound one, at that. It deserves a little grace.

What I want to talk about today — and what I cover in this week’s video — is the approach that has made postpartum weight loss feel, across three babies now, genuinely calm. Not punishing. Not linear. Just a slow, nourished, sustainable return to feeling like myself again.

Here is the thing nobody tells you about postpartum weight loss: restriction makes it harder. Not easier. Harder.

When your nervous system is running on broken sleep and the ambient hum of new-baby vigilance, your body is not in a state that responds well to being underfed. It is in a state that needs — desperately, physiologically — to be nourished. Consistently. Frequently. Without drama.

The framework I come back to, both personally and previously with my health coaching clients, is one rooted in fiber, whole foods, and the radical act of eating before you get feral. Which sounds obvious. Which is, in practice, surprisingly countercultural in a world that still wants to sell postpartum women on cutting carbs.

I do not cut carbs. I eat potatoes. I eat bread. I eat oats and grain bowls and, yes, cookies — made with whole ingredients, but cookies nonetheless. And I lost the postpartum weight, across three babies, without tracking a single macro or crying into a stroller at 7am.

The video below is the full picture — the framework, the science, the saturated fat conversation nobody wants to have, and the realistic timeline that actually respects what your body just accomplished. I’d love for you to watch it.

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It is the system I use personally, across three kids and one very hungry postpartum body, to make sure I am nourished without having to think about it from scratch every single day. And it is yours, completely free, because I genuinely believe that the way we feed ourselves in the postpartum season matters enormously — and you deserve a framework that makes it easier.

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I’ll leave you with this: I was at the park this week, walking up to meet some mom friends, baby on my chest, feeling approximately human — when I noticed a crust of dried spit-up on my shoulder that had clearly been there for some time. I considered being embarrassed. And then I thought: they’re mothers. They have seen things. They will not judge.

I flicked it off and kept walking.

That is the postpartum season in its entirety, really. You flick off what doesn’t serve you — the guilt, the impossible timelines, the before-and-after culture, the dried spit-up — and you keep walking. Nourished, a little tired, and more capable than you probably realize.

You’ve got this. 🤍